THE PEARL NECKLACE

Qazi Abu Bakr Muhammad bin Abdul Baqi Ansari is an illustrious personality of Islamic History. He was the most pious person of his time. Even after the lapse of nine centuries, his exemplary life is a source of guidance to Muslims. His biographers tell a number of tales of his honesty and reliability but the one that affected his whole life is full of strange and unique events. He has narrated this story in his own words and it adorns the pages of history books.
Qazi Abu Bakr Muhammad bin Abdul Baqi Ansari is an illustrious personality of Islamic History. He was the most pious person of his time. Even after the lapse of nine centuries, his exemplary life is a source of guidance to Muslims. His biographers tell a number of tales of his honesty and reliability but the one that affected his whole life is full of strange and unique events. He has narrated this story in his own words and it adorns the pages of history books.
One day, I was hungry, as usual. I went to the Holy Ka'bah to pray to Almighty Allah to save me from my sad plight. On my way back, I saw a velvet cloth pouch lying near the road edge. I picked it up. It was nicely sewn and neatly tied with a silk cord. I looked around to find its owner but the road was deserted and nobody was in sight. I carried the pouch to my house.
I was curious to know the contents of the small bag. As I untied the cord, a very precious necklace of pearls slipped into my hand. The luster of the spotless pearls almost lit my room. The pearls of different sizes were nicely put together in a string of crimson colored silk. It was a radiant beauty and I was thrilled to hold the valuable ornament. For a moment, I altogether forgot the hungry and pitiable state in which I was. My thoughts went to the unfortunate owner who had lost the precious jewelry. He must be unhappy and very worried due to his great loss. The course of action which I instantly decided on was to look for the owner and give him back his necklace to relieve him of this mental suffering. It never came to my mind to keep it wrongfully in my possession. So I set out to search for him. Leaving the bag behind, I went straight to the place were it was found.
I was curious to know the contents of the small bag. As I untied the cord, a very precious necklace of pearls slipped into my hand. The luster of the spotless pearls almost lit my room. The pearls of different sizes were nicely put together in a string of crimson colored silk. It was a radiant beauty and I was thrilled to hold the valuable ornament. For a moment, I altogether forgot the hungry and pitiable state in which I was. My thoughts went to the unfortunate owner who had lost the precious jewelry. He must be unhappy and very worried due to his great loss. The course of action which I instantly decided on was to look for the owner and give him back his necklace to relieve him of this mental suffering. It never came to my mind to keep it wrongfully in my possession. So I set out to search for him. Leaving the bag behind, I went straight to the place were it was found.
I listened to his account of the loss very carefully. When I was sure of his ownership, I held his hand gently and requested him to come along with me. He looked at me very hopefully and without asking any questions, he followed me. On the way back to my house, I was delightfully thinking that a handsome amount of five hundred dinars would be mind after a short while. The very thought of getting a reward of that much money was very pleasing. I was wondering whether my miseries would be over. I would no longer be a hungry or poor person. With such happy ideas in my mind, I entered my house and also invited the old man to come in.
When we sat down, I asked my perplexed guest about some marks of identification of his lost bad, so that his ownership could be established beyond doubt. He readily explained the shape and color of the pouch. He told me about its contents and gave an exact count of the pearls. He even described the tying cord. It convincingly proved that he was the rightful owner of the bad and the necklace of pearls. I silently rose and brought out the necklace pouch. As he saw it, his gloomy expression at once changed. His shining eyes beamed with joy and he looked at me with sincere gratefulness. His pleasant glance of thanks impressed me, and my own mode of thinking suddenly changed.
A little earlier, I was enjoying the idea of getting a good reward but now my mind was reasoning as to what I had actually done to deserve it. It was by sheer chance that the bag had came into my possession. I had exerted no efforts to obtain it. Therefore, why did I expect to get a reward for returning it to its rightful owner? But I was actually in dire need of money. My poverty and the grim realities of life were looking me in the face. Why shouldn’t I accept the reward? It was absolutely legitimate and surely there was no harm in taking it. A painful conflict of indecision was going on within me and I was in an uneasy state of double mindedness.
The noble old man was looking at the necklace again and again as to assure himself of its recovery. He then looked at me and said, "O dear me, you are a virtuous person and I thank you from the core of my heart. I am unable to express fully my feelings o fgratittude for your act of praiseworthy conduct. Nevertheless, I offer you a purse of five hundred dinars as a humble present and request you to kindly accept it."
He then placed in front of me a purse full of gold coins. A conflicting struggle of ideas was still going on in my mind. The sight of money which was within my easy reach was very tempting but I checked myself and said, "Sir, I thank you for offering me a substantial amount as a reward but it is impossible for me to accept it."
"Why not?" asked my noble guest, "You justly deserve the reward because I am giving it entirely of my own free will. I gladly give it to you as a humble token of my gratitude. Please do not dishearten me by refusing it." I replied, "Sir, I cannot even think of being rude to decline your kind offer, but iti is certainly improper for me to take it without doing anything to earn it. The necklace is yours and I happened to find it only by chance. Its restoration to you does not entitle me to take anything in return. Please do not insist on me to accept what is not morally due to me."
He was rather surprised by my firm refusal. Normally people yearn for money but I was adamantly declining it. He said, "My son! It is a virtue to be an honest person but the money is which is being offered to you is not disallowed by our faith. It is not prohibited to offer or accept such presents. Therefore, I request you to reconsider your unrealistic stand and keep that purse for the sake of my pleasure if not for anything else."
I said, "Sir, I do not at all intend to displease you, but the pleasure of Almighty Allah is more important to be reckoned with than your or my pleasure. If there is any good in my action, I will prefer to leave the matter to His Grace for compensation, which I do not wan tot risk for all the riches of this world. Kindly do not insist because I am determined not to accept any undue reward." My guest collected his pouch and purse and stood much dejectedly to leave. He patted me on the back and left without a word.
After a week or so, I got back my previous job. My days of deprivation and hunger were over. I rejoined my classes and forgot all about the incident I my busy schedule of daily routine. I exerted all of my energy to acquire knowledge of the Holy Qur'an and Hadith. My main subject of interest was Islamic Jurisprudence. I completed my studies with a distinction.
On the recommendation of my tutor, I was offered an appointment as Qazi of Qurtaba, (Cordova) the capital city of Haspaniyah (presently known as Spain). I readily accepted the post and started to prepare myself very happily for the long journey. I took leave of my colleagues and went to the port of Jeddah to embark on the ship for my destination. I boarded a merchant ship to carry me to the land of my future hopes.
For the first few days, the voyage was smooth and very enjoyable. Then suddenly a violent storm of severe intensity overtook us and the ship was engulfed by stormy waves. The mountain high waves tossed the ship around like a tiny toy. The masts were broken and the sails torn. A mighty wave crushed the ship and wrecked it completely. A few screams were heard and it was all over. I saw some floating boards and a few victims of the crash swimming around trying to save their lives. They were the only survivors of the hapless ship who were drifting over the ocean surface. When I recovered from the shock, I found myself clinging to a plan and moving with it at the mercy of the waves.
After drifting for two days, in a semi-conscious state, the waves tossed me upon the shore. I thanked Almighty Allah for saving me from the jaws of death. I was so weak that I couldn’t move. I helplessly lay there exposed to the scorching heat of the burning rays of the sun. I crawled to the dim shadows of a thorny bush. I lost track of time and was in a state between dizziness and heavy slumber.
After some time, I slightly opened my eyes and saw a few strange faces staring at me. They poured a few drops of water into my mouth and I came out of my oblivion but was still unable to speak. They made up a stretcher and carried me to a nearby town. When we approached near it, the first man-made thing which caught my eye was a towering minaret of a Masjid. I thanked Allah for being among my own brethren of faith.
They took me to a house belonging to one of them and laid me on a comfortable bed. With proper care, feeding, and treatment, I soon regained my lost energy. I told my kind host all about myself and the mishap of the ship wreck. My host, whose name was Faleh Hasan, informed me that I was in Hodeida, a coastal town of Yemen. The tract where I was luckily found was a desolate region and was a less treaded part of the coast. Faleh Hasan and his friends noticed a few vultures circling over the area, so they went to investigate and found me there in an unconscious state. He introduced me to his friends and I expressed my heartful thanks for saving my life. Due to their loving concern, I was soon normal, both mentally and physically.
I began to attend Masjid to offer my regular prayers and there I came to know many persons of nobility and of high-ranking positions. They all knew my unhappy episode through my host and treated me with understanding and respect. One of them was the aged and pious Sheikh Ahmad bin Suhail who usually led the prayers. He always greeted me with fatherly affection which touched me to the heart.
One day, he was a little late to arrive to the Masjid, so the people requested me to lead the prayers. My hesitation and excuses proved to be useless before their sincere appeals. That day I performed the duties of Imam. I did my best to recite clearly the Verses of the Holy Qur'an during the prayer and afterwards delivered a brief sermon on Islamic Law. Everyone seemed to be highly impressed. Sheikh Ahmad bin Suhail came forward and congratulated me on my excellent performance. I thanked him for his appreciation and encouragement. I came back to the house of my host filled with delight and self-confidence.
But later, I had sometimes thought that I had overstayed my welcome. So after the evening prayers, I stated my intention of leaving, but my host disagreed with me. He wanted me to stay for a few more days to recoup my health fully. At night, when I was going to bed, Sheikh Ahmad bin Suhail came with a few respectable people of the town. The friends of Faleh Hasan, who were my saviors, were also with them. When the preliminary formalities of greeting each other were over and all were comfortably seated, Sheikh Ahmad turned his eyes towards me and said, "Dear Abu Bakr, I have been honored by these gentlemen to speak to you, on behalf of them, about their commendable wish. I expect, you will please assent to it."
I was perplexed by that kind of address. So I said nervously, "Sir, you are very helpful and kind to me. I cannot disregard any of your commands or wishes. You can order me to do anything and it will be an honor for me to obey it."
He said, "Dear son, we all earnestly desire you to stay here with us forever. The regular Imam of our Masjid had died last year. We still mourn his death and perhaps will do so forever. His respect is deeply rooted in our hearts. He had enlightened our lives with the torch of knowledge. We wish you to take his place and consent to be our Imam. We may not be able to offer you a better paid position than that of the Qazi in Qurtaba, but we will surely give you our love, affection, and respect."
"But Sir," I protested, "I am a fresh, inexperienced student and feel small to carry out the sacred duties of the high office of Imam." The Sheikh said, "My son, do not underestimate yourself. We all have heard your recitiation and sermon, and are fully convinced of your ability to fulfill those responsibilities."
Before I could think of any evasive answer, my host, Faleh Hasan, and his friends vehemently backed up the proposal. I was left with no other alternative but to nod in affirmative. Everybody was pleased with my decision, especially Sheikh Ahmad who thanked me and kissed my forehead. They all rose to leave and thanking me individually, departed very happy.
They left me thinking how the secret hands of fate change the course of destiny in a secret manner. Circumstances secretly take such a turn that they altogether change the plans made up by man. I had cherished the hope of being a Qazi of Qurtaba and had taken steps to attain that goal, but preordained events made me an Imam of the Masjid in Hodeida.
So a new phase in my life began. I took charge of the imposed position and shifted to the assigned house of the Imam. I restarted the primary school that had closed due to the sad demise of the former Imam. I also commenced evening classes to impart lessons to explain the meaning of the Holy Qur'an.
I completely adjusted myself to the new environment and people generally accepted me as their religious leader. I was very contented and never for a moment regretted my decision to settle there. All the people, young and old alike, were happy and respected me. The feelings of any estrangement all faded away and I became as if I was one of them for ages.
One day, Sheikh Ahmad came to me and after enquiring about my welfare, said, "Dear Abu Bakr, your services to or townsmen are praiseworthy and beyond our expectations. I am glad that you had accepted our offer of staying with us. Now have come to you to ask one more favor."
I said, "Sir, I am at your service. Please tell me and I will comply with your order."
He said, "Dear son, a man is not perfect without his partner of life. I want you to marry and take full advantage of life. Marriage is also a sacred Sunna of our Holy Prophet. The sweet marital responsibilities are a real blessing which have been conferred onto man."
I replied, "Sir, you have always advised me in my best interest. I take you as a father to me and in this matter also, I will follow you counsel."
The Sheikh said, "Your predecessor, the late Imam of this Masjid was a very close friend of mine. He had a daughter, and when he was sure of his end, he entrusted her to my protection and care. Since then she has been under my guardianship. She is a lovely and adorable girl of good manners. Allah has endowed her with physical and mental beauty. She is virtuous and is a suitable match for you. I wish to give her in marriage to you and I feel sure that it will be a marriage of true minds."
I had no objection to the proposal whatsoever. A few days later, the bonds of marriage united us. After the festive ceremonies were over, Sheikh Ahmad escorted her to my house that was in fact her old abode where she had lived with her late father. I looked at her and my gaze was concentrated steadily on her. I forgot to even say welcome to her. I was not only looking at her beautiful and charming face, and at her downcast eyes; but my glance was riveted upon her pretty neck, which was ornamented by precious pearls. I at once recognized that necklace. It was the same necklace that I once found on a deserted road of Makkah. I looked at her in silent and open-mouthed wonder.
Sheikh Ahmad noticed my confused condition and thought that her beauty and the luster of the pearls had enchanted me. He politely said, "Dear Abu Bakr, that necklace and its wearer, both are yours now and you can take all your time to behold them. It may, perhaps, interest you to know that the necklace has a strange story of its own. Five years ago, my friend went to Makkah for pilgrimage and took that necklace with him to get it re-polished. There, he lost it. But due to the goodness of an honest young man, he recovered it intact. That commendable young man refused to sell his honesty and declined the pressing offer of a handsome reward. He left a lasting impression upon my friend who always remembered and talked about him. He once confided to me that he had a mind to go to Makkah again and ask that virtuous young man to accept the hand of his daughter, but time did not allow him to do so. Anyhow, it was destined differently. His daughter was to become your wife instead of his. The decreed decisions of fate are strange and beyond the understanding of man."
An emotional storm erupted within me. The strange happenings of the fateful events which were unfolded by the hidden hands of destiny agitated me and drops of tears rolled down my cheeks; I looked towards Sheikh Ahmad through misty eyes and said, "Dear Sir, you are very right to say that insight into the unknown mysteries of fate is not possible. It would perhaps be a pleasant surprise to know that I am the same person who found the necklace and restored it to your friend. He, in return, offered me an amount of five hundred dinars. Although I was a pauper and was suffering from the agonies of hunger in those days, my conscience did not allow me to accept anything that was not my due. I pinned all my hopes and expectations of Almighty Allah for any reward. And here I am with His gracious and greatest reward of all."
Sheikh Ahmad was amazed and without saying a word, he held my hand and shook it was a passion. My newly wedded wife lifted her eyes and looked me full in the face. Her eyes were filled with enthusiastic love that any husband ever could desire for. Almighty Allah had bestowed upon me His favors by giving me a considerate and loving wife and nothing in life surpasses that bliss."

A Story about the tongue

I think one of the most detrimental parts of man, which keeps him separated from Allah, is gossip and his tongue and words that are misused. This tongue that we use to pronounce the Name of Allah and then to say to somebody, 'you are stupid' or 'I hate you,' is absurd.

Sheikh Muzaffer used to tell the story about a sheikh who had a beautiful daughter. This daughter was coming to the age of marriage, and she had many suitors. She was so beautiful that handsome princes and rich men of position all wanted to win her hand in marriage. Finally the sheikh said, 'I'll ask three questions and give you three tasks. After you have completed these tasks, you will come back here. And the one who can succeed in all of them will be worthy of having my daughter's hand in marriage.'

The next day they all returned. Some brought honey, others the sweetest smelling flowers, or just anything that had the sweetest taste or aroma, anything sweet you could dream of that was on the planet, they brought. At the end of this long line was a poor, meek student of the sheikh. The sheikh finally said to him, 'What is it? Why are you here?' He said, 'Well, your daughter is very beautiful, and I am in love with her. And I would like also to attempt to answer these questions so that I may win her hand in marriage.' The sheikh said, 'Well, all right.' He could not stop what he had started. The student was holding a box. 'What's in that box?' asked the sheikh. He opened the box. Inside was the huge tongue of an ox. The sheikh stepped back and said, 'Is this some kind of a joke or a game you're playing with me, son? I asked for the sweetest thing in the world, and you bring me this tongue!' The student said, 'But, my sheikh, humbly I tell you that the tongue is the sweetest thing in the world, because the words that come from this tongue, if they are sweet words, they can make a sick person well. They can make an unhappy person happy. They can make someone who is sad and despondent feel that his life is worth living, and have joy. Surely, the tongue is the sweetest of all things.' The sheikh said, 'All right, you win this one.'

Then, addressing the others, he said, 'The next thing you are to bring me is the most bitter thing in the world.' The next day, the suitors all came and lined up. They brought bitter herbs and all kinds of bitter-tasting foods, plants, and whatever it was that tasted really bitter and terrible. And there was Mehmet the student at the end of the line holding a box. The sheikh said, 'What is it now? What do you have to show us this time?' Mehmet opened the box, and there was the same tongue. Astonished, the sheikh said, 'Surely you're playing a joke on us again. Yesterday you said that this was the sweetest of all things. Today you say it is the most bitter.' 'My sheikh,' Mehmet offered humbly and quietly, 'if the tongue says bitter words, it can make a happy person sad. If the tongue says bitter things to someone, it can hurt his very heart. This tongue is so bitter it can even break a heart.' The sheikh reluctantly said, 'All right, Mehmet, alright.' He paused and then said, 'And now, you come with me to the masjid.'

They went into the kitchen in the rear, and the sheikh said, 'Make me a coffee.' There was a metal container with tripod metal legs that stood on the floor. In it you placed coals from thewood that was burning in the stove. It was very hot and you could make coffee. The sheikh said, 'Make me a coffee here.' Mehmet took some hot coals from the wood stove, and placed them in the container, and began to put coffee and sugar and water in the coffee pot. he moved the coffee pot back and forth over the hot coals, and soon the water began to boil. As it was bubbling the sheikh said, 'Now, Mehmet, tell me, what sound is this water making? What is it saying?' Mehmet was at a loss. He really didn't know. He said, 'I'm not sure.' The sheikh said, 'Think about it, come back tomorrow, and tell me the meaning of the sound the water is making. And if you tell me this secret, you can have my daughter in marriage.'

The student returned to his room upset, because he thought for sure there was no way he was going to know what this boiling water was saying as it bubbled in the coffee pot. It seems that a friend of the daughter of the sheikh was cleaning up in the kitchen of the masjid and had overheard this conversation. She went to the sheikh's daughter and told her what had happened, word for word. That night, when the sheikh returned to his quarters and sat in his chair, his daughter asked, 'Dear Father, would you like a coffee before you go to bed?' He said, 'That's very nice of you. Thank you.'

And so he began to make a coffee, and as she moved the pot back and forth over the hot coals, the water started to bubble. She glanced at her father casually and aasked, 'Oh, Father, tell me- it's an interesting sound this water makes when it's bubbling and making your coffee.' She went on, 'What can that mean? What does that sound say?' He thought for a second and said, 'All right,' and he explained; 'The water is saying that I was a drop in a cloud. There was condensation and the cloud opened, and I came down to the earth as a drop of rain. As this drop of rain I landed on a seed. That seed grew into a tree. A woodsman came, and he cut part of that tree, and chopped it up for firewood. And then this firewood was placed in the stove, and the hot coals were taken and put into this container, and then this coffee was made, and so the water was saying - 'What is burning me is from me.'

The daughter didn't show any emotion. She said good night to her father, went directly to her room, and wrote down everything he had said, sealed it in an envelope, and gave it to a friend to deliver to the student Mehmet. Because, as he was in love with her, she was in love with him. He received the letter, opened it, and was amazed to see that the sheikh's daughter herself had sent a note with the answer to the sheikh's question.

The next day, he went to the masjid as he had been instructed to do the day before. The sheikh greeted him, 'As-salaam aleykum. Make me a coffee.' His student answered, 'Wa-aleykum as-salaam, my sheikh,'and began to prepare the coffee. He moved the pot over the hot coals. The sheikh looked at him and said,'Mehmet, can you answer the question, what is this bubbling water saying?' Mehmet reflected within himself very deeply, as if he was thinking hard, then he said, 'Ah, my sheikh, Bismillah, my sheikh, this water is saying...' and he repeated exactly what was in the letter, exactly what the sheikh had said the night before. In conclusion, Mehmet added, 'And the water is saying, what is burning me is from me.' The sheikh's face turned red. He looked at him and said, 'Ah Mehmet, and what is burning me is from me.'

One should watch one's tongue. Especially in daily life. Because the tongue can truly be the sweetest or the most bitter thing in the world. How often have we had the experience of feeling fine, and then we look at somebody and say, 'You are beautiful today,' or 'How kind it was of you to do that for that person,' or 'My heart really goes out to you.' Observe how that person is affected.

We've also had the experience of being grumpy, and we just look at someone and say, 'Look, get out of here,' or 'I dislike you,' and we know the effect that has without even taking it to a point of gossip. Within gossip, the soul of the speaker as well as that of the listener can be lost.

The tongue is tied to the heart. It is said that a man's character is hidden beneath his tongue, because the tongue says what is in the heart. So when we speak, we're expressing what is in our hearts. And though Allah says He cannot fit in the entire universe but can fit into the heart of a believer, He doesn't say that He will fit in that heart if it's cluttered with bad thoughts, deeds, and questions. Such a heart must first be clean.

Bad Company

by: Anonymous
Have you ever thought about the people you hang around i.e. your friends (your homees!). Who are they? You may well ask why should I question the people who I associate with! Well the answer is really quite simple. Your friends play an important part of your life. They can influence you, make you do things that you'd probably never have dreamt of doing before, and they can affect your lifestyle too. There is a well known proverb which goes "show me your friends and I will tell you what you are".
Who are your friends? Are they druggies, clubbers, drinkers and drunkards, fornicators, adulterers, gamblers etc? What ambitions do they have in life? Where are they heading? The answer may be "So what? I don’t really care who they are as long as we have a good time."
Getting to the Point
Your friends are your friends for a reason, whether this be because of your money, who you are (your status), because they are alone or they see you as someone who knows how to enjoy himself, or perhaps they want a ‘joke and some coke’.
The Prophet Muhammad (salAllahu alayhi wasalam) said:
"You are in your friends' religion. Therefore you should note with whom you are making friends".
As Muslims our aim in life is different from the rest, we want to get into paradise and to guard ourselves from Hell. We are here to worship and obey Allah (Subhanahu wa Ta'ala). Allah Ta'ala has placed upon us an honourable duty, which is to be the leaders of the world by spreading the message of Islam.
Allah (Subhanahu wa Ta'ala) says in the Qur'an:"You are the best community evolved for mankind, you enjoin what is right and forbid what is wrong and you believe in Allah."[surah ali' Imran; 3:109].
Our friends and company could either be an obstacle in our way by being helpers in our downfall to Hell, or they could be a source of help and support by making it easier for us to reach Paradise, which is the true life, the eternal life and a life full of enjoyment.
Allah says in the Qur'an:"On the day when the wrongdoer gnaws his hands, he will say; Ah! would that I had chosen the straight way with the messenger of Allah! Alas for me! Would that I had never taken such one for a friend! He verily led me astray from the reminder after it had reached me. Satan was ever the deserter of man." [surah Furqan; 27-29].
Choosing Your Friends
If your aim was to be an athlete, a sports personality, then you would try to be with people who also want to become athletes or those who are already athletes. You would learn from them, train with them, go to the sport centre and even hang around with them, in fact you would try to do all that you can to achieve your goal.
Similarly as Muslims our goal is Paradise and not Hell. Therefore it only seems logical that we should try to arrange our life and activities to be around those who also share the same goal and at the same time stay away from those who have chosen another way, those who are forgetful, wicked and commit sins. A true friend shows you success in this world and the hereafter whereas a misguided friend is trickery and cunning.
The Prophet (salAllahu alayhi wasalam) has given us some advice when choosing friends:
The Prophet (salAllahu alayhi wasalam) was asked: "Who is the person that can be the best friend"! He replied: "He who helps you when you remember God and reminds you when you forget him". He was then asked: "and which friend is the worst?" To which he replied: "He who does not help you when you remember God and does not remind you when you forget Him".
How many of your friends remind you to pray when you’re busy with work or just playing? How many of your friends make you forget Allah and take you away from Him by keeping you occupied with something or asking you to indulge in a sinful act: "let’s go and checkout the club bro! ... let’s take some weed". These friends are not your real friends; they will desert you when you are in need.
Allah (Subhanahu wa Ta'ala) says:"Friends on that day will be enemies to each other except those who kept their duty (to Allah). O my slaves! For you there is no fear this day nor shall you grieve" [surah Zukhruf:67-68].
Friends are those who love you not for who you are or what you have but purely for Allah. Those who are with you in times of happiness and also in sadness. They help you in preference to themselves.Umar ibn Al-Khattab (radiAllahu anhu) states that the Prophet (salAllahu alayhi wasalam) said: "There will be some slaves of Allah who will be neither from the prophets or martyrs but on account of their high position before Allah the prophets and martyrs will envy them. The people asked who will these be? The Prophet (salAllahu alayhi wasalam) replied those persons who loved each other for the pleasure of Allah Ta'ala even though there was no blood relation, they give their wealth to one another. By God, from their faces light will shine and they will be riding the light. When the people will be shuddering with fear, they will have no fear and when the people will be sad they will have no sorrow."[Abu Dawud]

Ang Kababaihan sa Ramadan

Ang Kababaihan sa Pagsamba

Kapatid na Muslimah! Paano mag-iipon ng kabutihan sa buwan na ito?
Mayroong mga paraan na para sa iyo na may maraming kabutihan sa buwan na ito, at
wala kang ibang gagawin kundi gawin ang mga ito kasama ang iyong pamilya at mga
minamahal.

Ang ilan sa mga dapat mong gawin ay:
1. Ang mga obligadong salah: marapat sa kanya na magkaroon sa Ramadhan ng
ibang pinagkakaabalahan, kaya dito ay dapat maging bantay sa pagpapatupad ng
mga bagay na sumusunod:

· Ang paghahanda sa salah bago pa ang oras nito sa pamamagitan ng Tahara at
paghahanda ng lugar na pagsasagawaan ng salah (sajadah).
· Ang pagtupad sa mga Sunnah (na salah) upang taglayin ang mga dakilang
palasyo sa Paraiso.
· Paggamit ng siwak bago magsagawa ng salah.
· Ang pagtayo ng salah at pagtupad sa tayo, pagyuko at pagtirapa nito ng
kumpleto.
· Pagsasambit ng mga pag-aalala kay Allah at panalangin pagkatapos ng salah.
· Ang pag-upo ng saglit sa sajadah upang magbasa ng Qur'an o pagluwalhati at
pagpuri kay Allah.
· Ang paghintay sa salah sa bawat salah, at siya ay laging nasa lugar ng dasalan
niya kaya't siya ay laging bantay, tulad ng sabi ng Propeta (saws): Tunay na ang
pagtawag sa babae ay lagian sapagkat siya ay nagsasagawa ng salah na para
bang ito na ang kaniyang huling salah.
· Kung aalalahanin ang dakilang gantimpala sa pag-upo sa dasalan at pagbasa
ng mga bahagi sa Qur'an at mga pag-alala kay Allah, na hindi tumatayo
hanggang sa ito ay matapos. Tulad ng sabi ng Propeta (saws): Sinuman ang umupo
sa kaniyang dasalan at inaalala si Allah at humihingi ng tawad, ang mga anghel
ay humihingi ng tawad para sa kaniya, hangga't hindi lumabas o nakipag-usap.

2. Magkamit ng gantimpala at magkaroon ng busilak na intensiyon sa pagsasagawa ng
Iftar, sapagkat tunay na sinuman ang magpakain ng Iftar sa nag-aayuno ay tulad sa
kaniya (nagpakain) ang gantimpala nito (nag-ayuno).

3. Magparami ka ng pag-alala kay Allah habang ginagawa mo ang mga gawaing
bahay, at sanayin mo ang iyong dila sa pag-alala kay Allah (mga dhikr).

4. Ang ilang kababaihan kapag dinatnan ng kanilang buwanang dalaw o pagdudugo
sa bagong panganak ay iniiwan ang mabubuting gawa, na ipinagbabawal niya sa
kaniyang sarili ang pagkamit ng mga kabutihan sa buwang ito. Tunay na mayroong
ibang mga pagsamba na malayang huwag isara sa mga pagkakataong ito; tulad ng
pagbabasa ng Qur'an nang hindi humahawak ng Mushaf bagkos hawakan ito ng
may takip, ang pagbabasa ng mga aklat na nakakatulong at mga babasahing may
katuturan, at ang pananalangin (du'ah), ang pagbigkas ng Tasbih, paghingi ng
tawad at pagkakawanggawa at panalangin ng pagpapala at pagbati sa Propeta
(saws) at pagpapakain sa mga nag-aayuno, at walang alinlangan na ito ay mula sa
mga gawaing may malaking kabutihan, tulad ng sa hadith ng Propeta (saws): Ang
mga muftirun47 ngayon ay nagkaroon ng gantimpala. Mayroong mahalagang
mungkahi: Ito ay hinggil sa pag-aayos at pagsasagawa ng pagkain at pangangalaga
ng bahay sa pagitan ng mga kababaihan sa iisang bahay upang ang silang
mayroong mga dahilan upang hindi maisagawa ang Salah sa mga panahong ito sila
ang gagawa ng pagkain para sa Iftar at ng mga iba pang gawain sa mga araw na
ito sa buwang ito at mga gabi nito. At binabalita sa iyo ang gantimpala tulad ng
gantinpala ng mga mga pinagsilbihan, kung ikaw ay malusog at malakas ay gawin
ang mga gawaing ito.

5. Ang pagninilay-nilay sa Qur'an ay pag-unawa sa kahulugan nito at mayroong mga
hayag ang kahulugan na hindi magigingmahirap para sa kanila, ang iba ay tinatapos
ang pagbasa ng Qur'an ng apat ng ulit sa buwan na ito o mas marami pa, at mas
mainam na kung sa iyong pagninilay-nilay at balikan ang mga aklat ng mga Tafsir.

Ang Kababaihan at ang Kusina

Ang babae ay pumapasok sa kusina sa Ramadhan ngunit sa panahong ito ay mayroong
mga marapat gawin at aspeto, ito ang mga sumusunod:


· Dapat ng ipaunawa sa mga anak, na hindi mula sa mga gawain sa Ramadhan ang
paghahanda ng mga pagkain at inumin ng iba't ibang uri sa araw-araw… bagkos
ang mainam ay hatiin ito sa dalawang bahagi o tatlo, at paggawa ng Menu ng mga
nais na putahe na dapat pag-usapan ng pamilya hinggil dito, upang maging madali
para sa lahat ang magbigay ng kanilang mga mungkahi sa mga uri ng pagkain. At
paggawa ng listahan para sa pagpaparte-parte ng mga pagkain para sa mga araw
ng linggo. At ito ay magpapadali sa trabaho ng mga kababaihan, at para malaman
sa hinaharap ang gagawin. At karagdagan pa upang makasanayan ng lahat ang
pag-sistema at pagsasa-ayos, at kasama dito ang pag-iingat sa biyaya mula sa
pagsasayang na siyang pinagbabawal natin sa kanila at pagdadala sa ayos hinggil
sa mga ginagamit at pagbabago sa pag-uuri ng mga pagkain.
· Radio; marapat na maglagay ng lugar sa kusina para sa radio at mga cassette tapes
na nagtatalakay hinggil sa Ramadhan mula sa mga unang araw nito. At
pinapayagan ang pagpaparami ng pakikinig ng Qur'an at pinalalayo sa pakikinig ng
mga Nashid at mga palatuntunan sapagkat ito ay hindi oras para sa mga ito.
· Ang paggawa sa mga pag-alala kay Allah (dhikr) at Tasbih48 habang hinahanda ang
pagkain upang hindi manghina ang kanilang mga dila sa pagsabi ng pag-aalala kay
Allah.
· Ang mapakinabangan ang mga gamit pangteknolohiya, tulad ng; mixer, makinang
panghiwa, makinang pangmasa at microwave upang makatipid sa oras ang mga
kababaihan.
· Ang pagtitipid sa mga uri ng pagkain at inumin lalu't ang mga ginagamit sa
mahabang panahon, maaring hindi gamitin o bumili na ng pagkaing gawa na (para
makatipid sa ilang rikado), at ang pag-iingat ng babae sa kaniyang oras ay dapat na
mas maging maingat siya sa kaniyang pera.
· Maging bantay sa paggawa ng madaling pagkain upang makatipid sa oras.
· Ang pagbabawas sa pagsasagawa ng mga pagsasalo-salo (party) sa buwang ito
upang maiwasan ang pagsasayang ng oras at pera.

Sa mga katulong sa bahay: huwag siyang pagbawalan ayun sa kakayanan nito na
magkamit ng gantimpala tulad ng sa iyo, at maaring makatulong sa kanya ang
paggamit ng mga sisidlang plastic upang makabawas sa kaniyang mga gawain, at
gayun rin marapat na kuhanan mo siya ng aklat para sa kaniya sa kaniyang wika o
dialekto na magpapaliwanag hinggil sa mga pagbabatas at kabutihan sa buwan na ito,
at kung sakaling hindi muslim ay pagkakataon mo na ito upang akitin siya sa pagpasok sa
relihiyong ito at makakatulong rin ang Islamic Center hinggil dito.


Ang Kababaihan at ang Kawanggawa

Ang nag-aayunong tunay ay dinadalisay ang sarili sa pamamagitan ng mula sa pagiging
makasarili at mga epekto nito at ang pag-iisip sa kabutihang-palad sa sarili at mga
pagnanasa tungo sa pagpapahalaga sa nasyon at sa kanyang mundo at mga suliranin.
Aalalahanin niya ang mga pangangailangan ng kaniyang mga kapatid na mga
mahihina at kaniyang sasagutin ang mga tunay na nakararamdam sa pag-alis ng mga
suliranin nila, at hindi mapapalagay hangga't hindi napapawi ang paghihirap, hanggang
mapawi ang dilim sa pagdating ng liwanag ng kaniyang mukha at napahinga ang

kaniyang puso – at sa iyo si A'isha (ra) – ang huwaran, gumugol ng isang libong dirham sa
isang araw habang siya ay nag-aayuno at ng dumating ang oras ng iftar ay sabi ng
kaniyang katulong sa kaniya, may natira pa ba sa atin para sa Iftar?! Sabi ni A'isha (ra);
kung napaalala mo lamang nagtira sana ako. Subhanallah! Kinalimutan niya ang
kaniyang sarili mula sa makamundong bagay.

At para sa iyo kapatid na muslimah, ang sumali sa bagay na ito:

1. Ang pagbigay ng zakat para sa ginto kung ito ay umabot sa nisab49, at ibigay ito sa
mga nararapat sa mga mabiyayang araw na ito upang madoble ang mga
gantimpala.

Paggawa ng pagkain para sa iftar para sa nag-aayunong mahihirap at
nangangailangan, at pagsasalo-salo sa pagkain ng iftar kasama ang mga
nagtatrabahong babaing muslimah sa tamang lugar na pinagdadausan ng iftar ng
mga kababaihan sa inyong lugar. O sa nagtatrabahong babae sa ilalim ng
pangangalaga ng ibang tao, tulad ng mga nagtatrabaho sa mga pananiman at
mga tulad nito. Karagdagan sa pagpapakain ng iftar sa mga kamag-anakan at kapitbahay
at ang lahat ng ito ay gantimpala sa ayuno sa Ramadhan ng higit pa sa isa, at
dito ay mayroongmabuting ugnayan, kabutihan at mabuting kapit-bahay.

2. At maaring gawin na ang buong pamilya ang magtustos sa isang pamilyang mahirap,
sa pagtitiyak hinggil sa pagkain ng Iftar at tulad rin ng suhur sa buong buwan.

3. Gawin para sa sarili ang bilang mula sa kawanggawa na ilalabas sa pang-araw-araw
– ayun sa kakayanan – at gawin ito, minsan ay salapi, minsan ay ibang mga pagkain,
o sa ikatlong gabi ay damit at sa ikaapat na gabi ay prutas o matatamis, at mga
magagandang gawaing pangkawanggawa sa pagitan mo at pagitan ni Allah na
walang nakaaalam kahit na ang pinakamalapit na tao sa kaniya.